First of all, let me apologize for not posting consistently this month. I don't want blogging to feel like a chore so I write when inspired to. Please bear with me. I promise to be more consistent. That settled, Christmas is coming oo! Can you feel it in the air?! Yes, I can and I'm just excited for no particular reason. I'm just happy about a lot of things. And I'm especially grateful for life, family and good friends.

So, the topic. Yes! Let's talk about sex. If you know Salt 'n' Pepa then you should know this song, "Let's talk about sex" and my favorite line in it is, " Don't decoy, avoid or make void the topic coz that ain't gonna stop it..." And I'm not here to talk about what it is you think I want to talk about. Whatever that is.

Growing up in an average Nigerian home, sex was something that was never talked about. You know there's something called sex and have an idea what its about but there's no talking about it. Like our parents just assumed we knew and it's something that's forbidden. But being an inquisitive being, I expanded my knowledge about sex by reading books and of course, talking with my peers. I guess this must have been the case with most of us.

When we were taught "The Reproductive System" in secondary school, you could feel the excitement in the classroom, the glee was obvious in our eyes. It was an interesting topic and nobody failed the test on this topic.lol. It was clear we knew what it was all about.



You see, we live in a highly sexualized world. TV shows, adverts, movies, music, clothing and even cartoons are now sexualized. The internet is readily available to dish out every information that there is on sex and our younger ones are being exposed to all these. What do we do? It's time we talk about it.

Of course it'll seem really awkward talking to a teenager about sex but its best they hear it from you (parents, siblings, uncle, aunt, cousin) than from a "friend" or via the internet. Its not something we should be quiet about anymore. Remember the series " I need to Know"? Where Funke Akindele's character was Bisi. Remember how close she was to her mum and how she used to tell her things about sex and give her advice about waiting for the right time. We need more parents and adults like Bisi's mum. Be your child's best friend and be free to talk to them about sex and what it entails.

Research has shown that young people/teenagers want to talk about sexual health with their parents. Many parents are however unsure and uncomfortable about having these conversations and where to start from, but avoiding the subject will not stop their children from having sex or keep them safe. It has also been proven by research that talking to teens about sex does not encourage them to experiment sexually. It goes a long way to prevent unwanted pregnancy, abortions and STDs and these teens are more likely to delay their first sexual experience.



We have to break free from that mentality that things such as sex shouldn't be talked about. It only makes things worse and exposes our young ones to numerous dangerous. Talk to them, be honest, be free. I'm sure if more adults talked about sex to teenagers, there would be less unwanted pregnancies, abortions which can lead to death and STDs.

Have yourselves a lovely and stress free week ahead and compliments of the season to you and your families. May the joy of this season continue to abide with us.

xo, Evita.